A recent viral video has sparked widespread conversation in Nigeria and beyond, after a Nigerian mother urged her adult son to consider marriage despite his reservations about today’s dating scene. The mother, seeking to reassure her unmarried son, offered a rather candid approach: she suggested he date two women at once before making any decisions about who to settle down with.
According to the son, who shared the video under @austin_mangod on TikTok, he’s wary of dating because he believes “90% of girls today are bad.” He explained that it’s not a lack of desire to marry that’s holding him back, but rather distrust about finding the right person. In response, his mother assured him that “all women can be tested,” and she was confident that the right person is out there for him if only he gives dating—and marriage—a real chance.
Mother urges son to give marriage a chance
The discussion unfolded in a short, candid video making waves on social media. In it, the mother offers step-by-step guidance on how she would help her son discern a suitable partner. With her son listening closely, she demonstrated what she described as ways to “test” a potential partner’s qualities, intending to help him overcome his doubts about women.
The scenario resonated with many Nigerians, as societal expectations around marriage continue to exert pressure on young adults. In cultures where family involvement in choosing partners is still common, the mother’s stance echoed sentiments held by many African parents: getting married is a significant milestone that should not be delayed for too long.
In the video, the man is seen opening up about his concerns, stating, “most of the girls are bad.” Despite his skepticism, his mother counters with practical advice, reassuring him that not all women fit into the stereotype he fears.
“Them don Dey pressure me into marriage as a man for house…but I no fold no be them go Dey the marriage with me.”
“Is not every girl that is bad, I’m a mother I know. Change your mindset, Please. I say please naw.”
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She continues, giving him detailed examples for evaluating a partner’s real character:
“See when you have like 2, 2 girlfriends the. you along time test them, you’ll plan.”
Despite her encouragement, the son maintains his perspective about struggling to trust women in today’s world:
“We’ll test them, at times some of them you’ll tell them that you’re so broke and infact, you don’t know.”
He goes on to emphasize his reservations:
“Most of them are bad, it’s only few that are good. It’s not that I don’t want to marry right now.”
The back-and-forth between mother and son struck a chord with audiences across Nigeria, Ghana, and the wider African community—many of whom are familiar with this sort of family expectation and the persistent “when will you marry?” question.
Reactions as mother begs son to marry
Online, the video generated a lively discussion, with thousands sharing their experiences and perspectives in the comment section. Some sympathized with the young man, noting that the modern dating environment can indeed feel challenging and risky. Others took the mother’s side, insisting that with patience and the right guidance, true love and a good marriage partner are possible.
veeky37306 wrote:
“See the kind of advice,a mother is giving you,you test them and if the other one doesn’t pass,you leave her with heart break,omo men una no deserve good thing.”
Luna stated:
“2 girlfriends as how na.”
mayoress wrote:
“Nobody is begging you oga if you want Na you Sabi no go frustrate someone daughter in the name of marriage.”
Giddy noted:
“Omo even there fellow gender dey fear them say make we test them first bro we are cooked.”
Tiana Kim expressed:
“To be honest this woman no lie and same goes to women too date two and see who’s best for you.”
Eniola Ayeni stated:
“My mama don tell me say as I Dey enter camp make I Carry wife come out.”
Spekerxmonex shared a bit of gentle encouragement: “Mummy don give you format na, go and marry na, pls na, I said please na.”
Agozie noted:
“Momcee we no day marry oh girls of this generation no be like una time no one wan work again.”
The Evil Leo effect stated:
“I get like 6 serious babe like this still adding more to the list till I find the 1 I’ll marry.”
Son of the morning explained:
“Na mistake wey we do be this them suppose be like two for hand but too busy to cheat fr.”
Mother woos lady for her son
In a related story that also caught significant attention online, a different Nigerian mother was recorded introducing herself to a young woman, attempting to match her with her graduate son who studied economics. The mother listed the reasons she saw potential in the lady, reinforcing the idea that parental involvement in matchmaking remains strong in some families.
This approach highlights ongoing debates around arranged marriages, independence in choosing life partners, and the persistence of traditional family values in the modern era across West Africa.
