In the not-so-distant past, romance in Nigeria and across West Africa thrived on the unspoken connection shared over shy glances, carefully composed handwritten notes sent by keke riders or messengers, and late-night conversations under the stars. Today’s digital era has shifted those heartfelt moments onto phone screens – now, “relationship goals” are measured in glamorous Instagram selfies, public declarations on Facebook, and even the playful tagging of a partner in the latest Twitter meme. While these platforms have made it easier than ever to stay connected, they have also introduced a mix of pressure, insecurity, and confusion into modern relationships.
Let’s take a close look at the subtle, sometimes hidden, ways social media is reshaping, and in some cases destabilizing, love lives from Lagos to Accra and beyond.
1. The Comparison Trap: “Perfect” Love Stories Everywhere
Imagine scrolling through your feed and seeing a couple sharing a passionate kiss in front of the Eiffel Tower, captioned “Soulmates for life ❤️.” It looks picture-perfect, but what that photo doesn’t show is the half-hour spent arguing about which side was more “Instagrammable.” Meanwhile, you might be sitting in a Lekki apartment with your partner, both eating jollof and chilling, but not looking as dazzling – at least, not on camera.
